mmmm come here and not allow my facilator to be around i dont get what your saying dibsy my friend...I dont feel trapped by this label like maybe Katie recognises I feel that it provides my with a boundary and a very important one for this forum

i'm confused

What are you confused about Katie? If it's about labels we have a choice. We do not have to accept labels. There will always be people who will label and those who wont. Some people feel safe with a label because then they know exactly where they are. Some people hate labels. I personally think labels are inappropriate, because people change constantly so labels change and there is no need of them anyway.

sorry Katie please can you explain why you are confused its often said to me that i confuse

who i am. my role. why i act like i do. why i need things. confused about a lot of things. not sure if its good or bad to be who i am. feel a bit stupid cos i've lost track of this discussion and don't really understand what people are saying.

wow, i havent looked at this thread for a couple of days,and like dibs i am totally blown away by it. It is thought provoking, inspiring, supportive, and most of all it feels like family coming together.

i so relate to dibs comment about coming to this forum via a long personal journey. I have stayed here because it has in many ways given me back to me. that is a gift that is so precious.

But the welcome and the support i recieved when i arrived in an emotional mess wil be something that i doubt i will ever forget. - fran i dont know how i would have gotten through those very difficult months without you there holding me. I doubt that i will ever forget what you did for me - so thank you from the bottom of my heart.

But there is not one person here that i am not grateful to in some small / massively huge way. pastmember / soulless you have made me laugh, made me cry, made me doubt myself, made me VERY VERY ANGRY, made me feel human, and for whatever our differences are, i cannot take away the fact that you have and are challenging me in a way that i could never have thought possible. and so i do want to give you a special hug,and say thank you. (ps - please dont take that as a green card to push my buttons - i am still learning about self control!)

Oh my, i am beginning to feel soppy and sentimental about this family here, i just know that the last 6 months for me has been a growth period for me that i could not and would not have conceived possible a year ago.

You know what guys, i am so so proud to be part of this family!

love
rusty
xx

not really confused. i suppose this discussion has just made me look at myself. that's not a bad thing as i have a lot to learn. a lot of the time i just avoid looking at who i am because its not always a pretty site. glad i got involved in this discussion as it has distracted me from painful stuff and allowed me to look at other parts of me. sorry for rambling. thank you.

no dibs i'm glad you asked the questions although i'm worried that i shouldn't have started this discussion here also cos i've kind of gone off on a tangent sorry

keep talking sue please

Hey its ok threads are allowed to go were they want to no restrictions except when its a members personal thread and then its obviously not polite to hijack.....this is an open thread so carry on please do . Its great to watch things evolve and take life of own that very natural

I think i'm a mixture of quite a few of these, both on the inside and the outside. Thank you for posting them pastmember as they've given me something to think about..

I think they are taken from a family living with someone who has a drinking problem but I think they fit any family living with any kind of addiction, or dysfunction. I guess that includes groups too.

Labels, Labels, Labels, Who in heavens name started this! We all have label thrust upon us whether we like it or not. We live in a label society. Hopefully here we can stay away from labels. Although pastmember I recognise you have received your fair quota in your time here.