My daughter is going to dump her boyfriend of two years tonight. I am not sure she is dong the right thing but she says he has "commitment phobia". She says he only really wants a part time relationship and comes from a family of brothers - all batchelors who dump their girlfriends when it starts to get too serious. She says there is always something a bit distant about him and she wants to end it now rather than spend years with someone who wants a part time relationship.

My daughter is quite decisive. When she makes her mind up about something she does it and theres no gong back. I just hope she is doing the right thing here though.

She says she read a book on commitment phobia and it described him to a T!!

Hi Changes, yes its much easier when they are small and you can protect them from getting hurt, but she finished it this evening, came home very upset, she said he was upset and so is she because she loves him and he loves her. She wanted to have a commitment with him but he just doesnt have it in him. she says when they are alone together his head is always somewhere else and he never seems happy. His dad had severe bi-polar and he shows a lot of signs of depression to (altho not the manic phase). she says that she knows he loves her but he seems to have issues that he never wants to talk about, other than say he is confused. He's a very intelligent guy with a good job and quite comfortably off financially .. but not a lot of emotional intelligence!

As much as I feel sorry for him and want him to sort himself out. I dont actually want my daughter saddled with someone with a lot of complications for her sake. I dont want her going through life always being the giver. I suppose I'm quite proud of her in a way for making such a brave decision and sticking with it. But she's very upset at the moment