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gaz7224 · Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 11:14 pm Post subject: Oh so quiet..........

Hey,

I have a strange phobia. I can't swallow if I'm with other people and its quiet - I gasp and alsorts. It's so annoying. School was horrible for me - assemblies were a nightmare that made me feel sick with worry. I use to get really hot n stuff. But when we sang hymns, i was absolutely fine, lol

. Now, I can avoid quiet situations. I'm not agoraphobic cuz i like interacting with people in pubs etc - just not when its quiet. I'm sometimes shy, but alright when i get going, lol

. Maybe someone told me off for being too noisie when i was young. Im not exactly the quietest person cuz i have muscle spasms cuz of my disability, but the phobia make those worst too, lol

. Maybe i need cognitive behavioural therapy or hypnotherapy to break the thought pattern.. i dunno.

What do you think?

Gaz

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martin · Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 7:43 am Post subject: anxiety..

i don't have an answer gaz i'm afraid, but it's not the first time i have heard about a persons anxiety when eating. my mother in law did not like to eat in front of others and my wife was physically sick sometimes when we used to go out to restaurants.

i put both of those things down to anxiety or lack of confidence..

Changes · Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 8:05 am Post subject:

CBT could help Gaz to look at those thoughts and evaluate them using the ABC of the theory and then some Systematic desensitization techniques to help lessen the anxiety and face it.

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gaz7224 · Posted: Sat Apr 26, 2008 2:29 am Post subject:

Changes wrote:

CBT could help Gaz to look at those thoughts and evaluate them using the ABC of the theory and then some Systematic desensitization techniques to help lessen the anxiety and face it.

Thank you for your reply :-)

I like your suggestion.

Someone else suggested EFT, but I'm not sure if that would be potent enough.

I've had the phobia since I was 10. This was around the time when my dad committed suicide, and when I transferred to secondary school. Quite a stressful time in my life, so maybe that has something to do with it. I'm not sure how though.

Changing schools was horrible. I had to go to a different school to a girl I 'loved', first love and all that. This really hurt and I went off my food and all sorts. I felt sick a lot, and really frustrated. I'm actually feeling slightly frustrated right now thinking about it. I'm 23 now, so how longs it been? Over a decade! lOl. It's interesting that thinking about it can make me feel frustrated, even after so many years. I mean, why did they have to mess it all up?

It's not like my secondary school was bad, but I just wish I could have gone to her school.

I guess my life has lacked choice a lot, and only now I'm beginning to make my own choices. Maybe that's why I feel anxious when people tell me what to do?

My dad didn't give me a fucking choice when he chose to abuse me. People think they know fucking best, or don't respect me as an adult because of my disability. Not everyone, but some do. It's not their fault that they don't realise, but still ent good enough. I even got told what college to go to, lOl. Wasn't a bad college though.......

Sorry for swearing......

I've never linked the anxiety about being told what to do, with my childhood. Well, I have, but my counsellor said no and that it's probably just cuz I like getting my own way. I agreed with her, but now I'm not so sure.. The counsellor was a different one to the one I've got now. She did help a lot with my dad, but I think she was wrong about that anxiety thing.

I really like it when you reply to my messages. I find it really helpful

Gaz

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gaz7224 · Posted: Sat Apr 26, 2008 2:51 am Post subject:

Thinking about it....... I think I still have feelings for that girl......

That's a bit psychotic, lol

. Don't worry, I won't stalk her lol

.

All my life, I've been searching for someone to love (romantically). I put it down to being a Pices, but maybe it's a bit more than that....

Nothing wrong with that - I think it's human to want to love and be loved, but it's interesting to think about why in my case.

I guess she was my first love, and maybe was simply what I truely find attractive in a person., so naturally will be looking for similar women.

God that was ages ago. I'm talking about women now, but we were just kids back then.

I have talked to her by e-mail lately, which was nice. But it's frustrating cuz it's just E-Mail and I'm not very good at talkin by E-Mail. I like to meet people cuz u can talk easier then - u can rely on the environment for things to talk about. I like zoos cuz u can inpersonate the animals, hehe. Told u i embrace my inner child, lol

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I'm writing far too much sorry. xx

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gaz7224 · Posted: Fri Aug 15, 2008 10:04 pm Post subject:

I sounded like a freak

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sunshine · Posted: Fri Aug 15, 2008 10:10 pm Post subject:

No you didn't!!

Gillianm · Posted: Sat Aug 16, 2008 10:39 am Post subject:

I hear your inner critic having a dig at you. No-one is a freak!

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Fran · Posted: Sat Aug 16, 2008 12:43 pm Post subject:

It's good to hear you talk and you are NOT a freak - go easy on yourself Gaz!! xx heart

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