Something I was sent today...

An Exercise For Encountering The Soul Mate

Here is an exercise from Crossing The Soul's River:

Take a piece of paper and write the names of a number of women - maybe ten or twelve - to whom you are attracted. 'Identify the traits - physical and personal - that make each woman attractive. Review your list, looking for traits that are common among your attractions. Guess what you set of attractive traits might been five or ten years ago. How are your patterns of attraction changing? Finally, try to become conscious of how you respond when you find yourself attracted - and attractive - to these women. Do you become uneasy? Do you push them away? Or do you seek to draw them to you?

When he does this exercise with groups, Roberts says:

"I am generally amazed at the response to this simple exercise. Men who rarely have the opportunity to think about their relationship with the feminine become aware of different notions of feminine attractiveness and of how those notions change as we mature."


I'm very conscious now how much I value beauty in all feminine forms, intelligence, a lovely shape, smooth skin, kindness, consideration. It far deeper and varied now than it was 10 or more years ago. I noticed the change starting when i was about 35 and how I was becoming attracted to certain looks or traits.

Good excersise Martin thanks